Taking action despite discomfort

I am offering free coaching sessions while enrolled in a life coaching training program. This way, I can practice skills and benefit the client. But how to go about getting practice clients? The obvious choice would be to coach friends: I can take that action and ask them to be my client without discomfort.

However, coaching friends can be tricky. There may be discomfort on the part of the coach to push the client to action. There may be discomfort on the part of the client to reveal previously hidden aspects of their life. In addition, the motivation to sign up for coaching must be a need for coaching. Signing up to help a friend who needs practice coaching diminishes the effectiveness of the coaching relationship.

So, I decided to approach colleagues, fellow students at the yoga studio, and place an advertisement on the neighborhood bulletin board. The first two approaches were easy. The post on the bulletin board? Not so easy. I felt uncomfortable and exposed. It took me a couple of days to “take action” and put myself “out there”. When I finally hit “Send”, I realized it was nothing at all. At best, I can help someone. At worst, they will read the post and move on.

To my delight, the morning after I posted the Ad, one of my neighbors contacted me. We had a phone call and our first coaching session is scheduled! Taking action despite the discomfort allowed me to move forward.

Back to the Blog

It’s been several months since I last blogged. Like so many things in life that are good for us, when we stop doing them, the energy to start back up seems insurmountable.

It was a comment from a fellow meditator on the Insight Timer meditation App (https://insighttimer.com/). He stated that he liked reading my thoughts and the journey within. Since I enjoy writing about my thoughts and the journey within, I came back.

The poet Naomi Shihab Nye writes beautifully about what to say when you’ve been out of touch. How do we catch up? In an extract from her poem, The Art of Disappearing, https://gatheringbooks.org/2013/07/19/poetry-friday-the-art-of-disappearing/, she writes:

When someone you haven't seen in ten years
appears at the door,
don't start singing him all your new songs.
You will never catch up.

And so, dear readers of my blog, I’ll be sharing my journey of transition and I hope you will ride along with me.